The effective way to flirt with a girl at the Bar

But some dudes always forget that there are rules; unwritten rules in the hearts of women.

For instance, ask any girl and they will tell you this: if you ever see three girls out in the bar together, don’t bother getting any hopes. They are out to have fun as girls and there is a secret code to stick together no matter what. Buy them drinks if you are feeling generous, but don’t waste your hope. It is a girls’ night out and you will not be able to pull one of them away from the pack for your pleasure.

However, if they are two girls together and you like one of them, go right ahead and do your thing. You might get a dub, you might get her to put her head on your shoulder that night or you might go home with her.

But still, you must know how to flirt in the bar and the following are tips from the ladies themselves:

“Do not stare from across the room. Little glances and quick smiles work much better. Blatant staring is just creepy and uncomfortable.”

“Don’t send over a light beer, especially if I’m not drinking a light beer. Ask the bartender what the girl is drinking and send that. When in doubt, a glass of something sparkling never hurt anyone.”

“Be nice to my friends. If they are right next to me, you offer them a drink too. It’s so tacky when you don’t.”

“Wait for a response. Guys nowadays think that buying the drink gives you permission to talk to and even harass that person. You should always think of buying the drink as a selfless gesture. It deserves no more than a ‘thank you’ if accepted.”

“Honestly, superficial compliments are a pretty great way to get me to shut down. It instantly makes me uncomfortable. I don’t believe anything they say and try to get away immediately.”

“Say hello, introduce yourself, and have a normal conversation. It’s amazing how far being normal can take you.”

“The more pressure, the more I get turned off. It’s the basic common sense rule of knowing your audience.:

“Challenge her to a game of pool. Or ask her to be your pool partner.”

“Major turn-off when a guy approaches, offers to buy a drink smoothly, and proceeds to snap or shout for the attention of the bartender. Patience and kindness is seductive.”

“Things that are not funny include: comments about the bar/the service, politics/religion (this isn’t your stand-up show), my body, or my friends. Sadly there’s no blanket for what does land, but still-confident-and-a-little-self-deprecating is usually a solid approach that can be really charming when used well.”

“Take no for an answer.”